The Grim Promise of ‘Promising Young Woman’

That is the promise of this dark tale. The patriarchy might be too brutal to resist and it may render you incomplete. But you are not alone in your incompleteness. And you don’t need to seek wholeness in traditional gender roles. You can find it in one another. … Read More The Grim Promise of ‘Promising Young Woman’

The Reckoning

And yet. Even in 2020, hope springs eternal in South Africa. Reconciliation Day acknowledges brutality and loss whilst celebrating how far we have come in a few generations. It is not a perfect peace but it is far closer to peace than the horrors of colonialism and Apartheid. The violence that turns a river red with blood will eventually abate as the water cleanses and soothes. Reconciliation of these two states of being is the South African lot. … Read More The Reckoning

Death of a salesperson: Reflections on ‘American Murder’ and multilevel marketing

In the final analysis, Christopher Watts, garden-variety woman-hater, confirmed what we know about misogyny. There is a reason that women are more likely to die at the hands of their male partners. The patriarchy is never more deadly than when it is lying in wait beside us, in the hearts of the men we love most in the world.… Read More Death of a salesperson: Reflections on ‘American Murder’ and multilevel marketing

‘Stopping’ gender-based violence

As womxn, we exist as potential victims. We share space and breath. We cannot be expected to do it without limits and fear. So, ladies, take the self-defense classes. Don’t stay out alone too late. Drive don’t walk. If you’re being driven by someone else, make sure someone is tracking the vehicle. Dress conservatively. Smile when it’s suggested by a stranger on the street. Text your friend when you arrive safely. Be Careful. STOP GENDER-BASED VIOLENCE.… Read More ‘Stopping’ gender-based violence