And, look. Comedy is in the ear of the beholder, or whatever. But I can’t help but wonder if some of the negative reviews are in response to seeing women take on roles and archetypal behaviours that we associate strongly with men. … Read More Girl Boss
The chaos of being a woman is constant. The COVID pandemic and all the ways in which it rearranged and redefined the work of women and mothers might be the source of the current disorder. MomTok and DCC might offer a subset of young women whose lives were especially jostled by the pandemic relative safe harbour and the tools to navigate the ever-increasing pressures of post-COVID existence.… Read More Notes on MomTok and Cowgirls*
men who hate women are not clever. They are nothing special. They cannot find their own way in the world and, instead, use their destructive energy against people who are the exact opposite. It’s time we examined the weaknesses in our communities that allow them to get away with that, time and again.… Read More The Truth of True Crime
What little hope we have of reimagining a world in which girls and women can safely exist lies in obliterating this one. … Read More Burning it to the Ground
If you’ve ever been an unwitting part of a cultish group, you may have experienced The Moment. It is a single moment (that stands out in a series of moments) in which you realise the extent of the horror to which you’ve been a party to. … Read More The Costs of Cults
That is the promise of this dark tale. The patriarchy might be too brutal to resist and it may render you incomplete. But you are not alone in your incompleteness. And you don’t need to seek wholeness in traditional gender roles. You can find it in one another. … Read More The Grim Promise of ‘Promising Young Woman’
In the final analysis, Christopher Watts, garden-variety woman-hater, confirmed what we know about misogyny. There is a reason that women are more likely to die at the hands of their male partners. The patriarchy is never more deadly than when it is lying in wait beside us, in the hearts of the men we love most in the world.… Read More Death of a salesperson: Reflections on ‘American Murder’ and multilevel marketing
As womxn, we exist as potential victims. We share space and breath. We cannot be expected to do it without limits and fear. So, ladies, take the self-defense classes. Don’t stay out alone too late. Drive don’t walk. If you’re being driven by someone else, make sure someone is tracking the vehicle. Dress conservatively. Smile when it’s suggested by a stranger on the street. Text your friend when you arrive safely. Be Careful. STOP GENDER-BASED VIOLENCE.… Read More ‘Stopping’ gender-based violence
My son started at a new school a week or so ago. Other than his father, he is the bravest person I know, and I know he is going to be just fine. In time, he will be fine. In the meantime, there are wobbles here and there. I am doing my very best… Read More Black Boy Joy
I have finally made peace with my birth story. It’s been a long journey. I know that my story is not the stuff of which natural birth fairy tales are made. Although I did (unknowingly) labour, and had the support of a wonderful doula, my birth was not ‘physiological’. I had a C-section that… Read More A Woman’s Right to Choose
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